Oh Family... So Much Drama!

5/12 (Mon)

I spent quite some time talking to dad this morning.  I have never seen him so mad at someone that he literally yelled over the phone.  Uncle 6 was being annoying.  He wanted to change the date of uncle 7's graveyard dedication when everyone has already consented of meeting on Sunday of 6/8,  He himself rejected the date because of some superstitious ritual (Uncle 7's mom passed away two weeks ago; so according to Uncle 6, we should wait for Uncle 7's mother-in-law settled first.  It doesn't make sense to us at all... 1) Aunt 7 didn't request any delay because of her mother's passing.  2)  Uncle 7 has already been gone for 2 years and we just want him to settle in a place.  3) Uncle 6 also accused my dad of manipulating aunt 7 for her decision.  He is just miserably upset with dad.  I just worried about his health if he remains upset with everyone.  It's not a good thing!

Dad told me later on that he was also upset with my sister... she opened the red envelope she got from the funeral home and gave that $1 to my dad.  Dad asked what it is for?  And she said, "It's for you to buy stuff."  I told dad she probably didn't put too much thought to this... just want to give it to dad. But, to an elderly man... this is insulting!  Dad said she could have use that $1 to buy food since they were in line to order food.  I don't know whether it's a thoughtless act or an intention with purpose.   Right after Uncle 6's argument with dad, my sister also watsappx me privately of my dates of returning to HK and said they would wait on me for Uncle 7's dedication together.  I thought it was all out of sincere at first until I saw the post from Uncle 6.  I quickly sent her a message that it should be up to Aunt 7 since she is the wife of Uncle 7 and that we need to respect her decision.  She didn't respond afterwards.... But my thinking is, "Why you dragged me down in this situation?"

Dad felt better after we talk.  I hope he will remain calm, forgive, forget and move on.  Nothing is as important as our relationship with others.  It is in this life, and it will continue in the next life.  It's good to be in harmony with everyone so that when the time comes, we will always be at peace.  

Life is suppose to be HAPPY!!!